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Since I have started educating and practicing the Hypnosis and NLP techniques that I teach to each of my clients, I have made some discoveries about my own weight loss journey that, had I been aware of how these methods would have helped me realize my patterns of self-sabotage that much more quickly, I would have made choices that were SO much better for myself in those early adult years. Now, I could look back on the past and be filled with regret and shame, OR I could choose to look at the past and realize that there was a whole lot of learning that has come from it. (I choose the latter).
I used to weigh 180lbs. I was 20 years old. And with this extra 50lbs, I realized that it had come on slowly but surely over the short timeframe of 7 years. And as time went on I adapted to each pound gained. I bought new clothes, I shied away from exercising, and I continued to eat more and more every day. But the biggest thing that had changed over time was my mindset. And not for the better. I was in a place where every negative self-thought grew into a self-deprecating belief system of WHO I was as a person.
Through curiosity of the patterns and behaviours I used to have, I discovered that the image I had of myself from way back then, was still tucked away in the recesses of my subconsious brain. Although I had learned in my own way of how to take control back of my weight, and eventually found working out to be fun as I continued to see my own physical proof of success with fitness, the blaming and martyrdom complex I had developed over the years was getting in my way of really embracing a life of joy and contentment I so yearned for.
You may wonder how blaming and martyrdom have anything to do with weight gain…and at this time in my life where I was gaining, I didn’t understand or even realize I was doing it either! You see, every time I took out a bucket of ice cream from the freezer and dug my spoon into it, or opened a bag of chips from the cupboard and stuffed handfuls of chips into my mouth, I was in a place of feeling sorry for myself. Something had gone wrong in my life, some things were quite traumatic even, and I blamed the situation or the person for my feelings of self-pity, anger, or frustration in life.
Years later, and in and through the use of our hypnosis methods I discovered that even though I had worked hard at keeping the weight off of my physical body, I was still carrying a weight of self-pity, anger, and frustration from events and experiences that happened SO long ago, and I manifested these feelings by way of blaming the world for it all.
It was in acknowledging and identifying the good intentions behind the blaming behaviour and having the martyrdom complex, that I FINALLY, for the first time in my life felt a lightness like never before. I found forgiveness toward myself, I found grace, I found love and kindness for the me of the past, the me of the present, and the me for the future.
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